Even if we are logging on to a site like xxxmatch with all its millions of followers, we shouldn’t be so enamored with the ability to search far and wide for a sex partner or friend. Sometimes keeping close to home serves us better. Firing-up a site’s adult friend finder, we might indeed be tempted to cull through more than just a variety of types, but as alluring the exotic might be to our experience-and people are really only ever exotic because they don’t populate our everyday experience-there is something to be said for staying in the old neighborhood, dealing with potential lovers or friends who share our experience.
Sure we have seen a great communication cross continents because of Facebook and other social media platforms and sites like xxxmatch attract a wide audience, but really it is hard enough trolling online for a date, should we be more interested in keeping our dramas on a local scale? Sure, those powerful adult friend frinders can find us a friend just about anywhere, but do we need to tax the machine, text our boundaries, simply look far afield because we can? It’s not impossible to think our soul-mate lives a full continent away from us, but why could he or she live a town over? And while there is nothing wrong with conducting a long-distance romance, it is not the easiest way to keep a love alive.
Even if we’ve been on a xxxmatch for some time, even if we have thousands of Facebook friends, to think we could ever exhaust the possibilities of our local environs really speaks more to our wanderlust then about the truth that, if we think our local area has not born enough potential mates or dates for us, that really we might not be looking hard enough in our own backyard. Home might really be where the heart lies but if we are lying to ourselves we might not see what lies right outside our door.